I recognize that many of the people who don't buy into the Non-Coercive Parenting Theory feel that the TCS people think of them as "bad" parents.

To put things in perspective, though, the theory is about learning. One learns best with the amount of adrenaline that is generated by "interest". More adrenaline than that actually causes learning to decrease.

One of the things that increases adrenaline is fear. This could be fear of life or limb or just fear that we might not be "functioning properly" (as in -- we aren't thinking correctly .... like there is something wrong with us).

The implication of this is that if somebody, by explaining their theory to you, causes you to:

* feel inadequate

* question your own value as a person or a parent

* feel in any way that you are wrong, bad or broken

that person is increasing your adrenaline level beyond what is useful for effective learning and is decreasing your ability to learn; and is, in fact, being coercive.