[joe-frank-list] 'Stoner'

[russellbell at gmail.com]

	Larry tells Joe that Zachary spat on the floor of his bedroom.
(Remember that Zachary moved into the master bedroom, Jolly and Larry
into his improvised alcove bedroom in 'Karma, part 4'; Larry kept
using the master bedroom's bathroom.)
	0:30: Larry tells Joe that he and Zachary spent the day
together.  Zachary had had a long conversation with his aunt (Bev,
Jolly's sister) in the morning; the aunt told Zachary that Larry
wanted Zachary to fail because he's a failure.  Jolly was
unsympathetic.
	2:40: Joe tells Larry continuing to live at home is cowardice;
Larry agrees.
	3:20: Larry recounts Zachary's (non)-performance in softball
and soccer as a kid.
	4:00: Jack Kornfield recounts how Japanese soldiers abandoned
on Pacific islands for years after the war, how the Japanese welcomed
them back: thanked, given a hero's welcome.
	7:00: Larry tells Joe about a job he got delivering a car to a
body shop then picking it up, how he took payment in dope.
	8:40: Joe asks David Rapkin about an alternative career he had
fantasized about.  Rapkin recounts imagining being a foreign
correspondent, spins a tale about covering a battle in drag.
	14:50: Jack Kornfield talks about how we can fail in our
efforts to be mindful, let fear or appetites take over.
	16:50: Debi tells Joe about the visit of Malcolm's kids.  She
objects to the junk food they eat.  The kids are unhappy, want to stay
with his wife.  This, along with her PMS, makes her feel terrible.
	22:10: Kornfield says Zen master Dogen
(https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/D%C5%8Dgen) said that a Zen master's
life is one mistake after another, that the point is to accept things
as they are.
	24:00: Debi tries to reconcile with Malcolm's children.
	29:50: Larry tells Joe that he asked Zachary to stay around
home that day.  Zachary wants to smoke Larry's dope.  Larry tells Joe
he doesn't like grass that much.  Joe points out that Larry's behavior
contradicts this claim.  Larry and Zachary smoke dope; Larry eats too
much, feels bloated.  Larry remembers his youth, that he just wanted
to feel good, can see that Zachary's behavior is alike.
	37:00: Jack Kornfield tells about Jon Kabat-Zinn
(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jon_Kabat-Zinn), who started his
practice in the basement of a hospital in Massachusetts, seeing the
patients the physicians could do no more for, teaching them
mindfulness.
	39:20: Larry tells Joe that he doesn't want to get a job,
wants to retire.  He wrote a poem inspired by (Pierre) Bonnard's
(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pierre_Bonnard) 'Terrace at Vernon'
(https://uploads3.wikiart.org/images/pierre-bonnard/the-terrace-at-vernon-1939.jpg)
	42:10: David Rapkin recounts imagining being a merchant seaman
in an alternate life, the fantastic adventures he had.
	45:00: Kornfield talks about Thich Nhat Hanh's
(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th%C3%ADch_Nh%E1%BA%A5t_H%E1%BA%A1nh)
new book.  Hanh wrote about giving a talk, when he started talking
about a nun he fell in love with, people perked up.  Kornfield then
tells a Lewis Thomas story about how a female moth's pheromones make
the male moth feel like flying.
	48:50: Larry tells Joe about Doris Peterson, who owns a loft
in Soho.  Her husband, Dick, did little.  His wife came to hate him,
kicked him out.  He moved in with his mother, then, after she died, a
room in a run-down house.  Larry says that Jolly began to compare him
to Dick.
	54:50: Kornfield recommends letting go of fear, living in the
present, accepting the world as it is.
	55:50: Larry talks about driving his old MG as far as he can,
living where it dies.
	56:40: Kornfield says that when we realize that everything
changes and accept that, we're in nirvana.

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	I recommend a trip to Vernon when you're in Paris.  It's a
nice small town accessible by commuter train.  Monet lived at Giverny,
a village about 2 km away, a pleasant walk.  It has his lily pond.
It's a little museum now.  It's a day trip.

	I saw Thich Nhat Hanh when he came to Santa Monica in the
'90s.  Joe could have been there.  I didn't see him.

russell bell